Family platform.eu: A summary of the situation in Europe today

It can be read for free here:
http://familyplatform.eu

http://familyplatform.eu/en/doc/255/FP_Comms_Family_A_Summary_HQ.pdf

Families: A summary of the situation in Europe today, Family Platform, 2010
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Very generic document, but at nearly each page we can see how Ireland is failing the 21st Century.
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Not a word, at best 1 or 2 pictures could be to as certain degree be construed as insinuating the possibility of diversity.
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Very clear.
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Very vague.
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One more reason to register on the platform and voice or concerns...

It is suprising pink parenting does not get a mention whilst a number of article or key notes relate to LGBT matrimony: http://familyplatform.eu/en/2-critical-review/conference/workshop-4-changes-in-conjugal-life

2010-09-16: Call for civil marriage legislation

CARL O’BRIEN, Chief Reporter 

Gay rights campaigners have called on the Government to legislate for civil marriage for same-sex couples following today’s Irish Times /Behaviour & Attitudes poll which shows a large majority of people in support of such a move.

The poll found 67 per cent of people believe gay couples should be allowed to marry, while a further 60 per cent do not believe that civil partnerships will undermine the institution of marriage.

Moninne Griffith, director of Marriage Equality, said the findings show the Irish public are “keenly aware that the current exclusion of lesbian and gay couples from civil marriage is deeply unfair and doesn’t make any sense in today’s Ireland.”

She also said the finding that 91 per cent of people would not think less of a person if they were lesbian or gay was highly significant. Continue reading »

2010-09-15: 67% support gay marriage, 91% support civil partnership, only 38% oppose same-gender couples adoptions (46% support)

CARL O’BRIEN, Chief Reporter JUST OVER two-thirds of people (67 per cent) believe gay couples should be allowed to marry, according to an Irish Times /Behaviour Attitudes social poll.

It is one of a series of findings in a poll on “sex, sin and society” that indicates Irish people have adopted a more liberal attitude towards personal relationships and sexual behaviour.In addition showing strong support for gay marriage, a significant majority (60 per cent) also believe civil partnerships for gay couples will not undermine the institution of marriage.

A large majority (91 per cent) also say they would not think less of a person if they revealed they were gay or lesbian.These numbers are consistently high across most age groups, as well as in urban and rural areas.People are divided, however, on whether gay couples should be allowed to adopt children. Some 46 per cent support such a move, while more than a third (38 per cent) are opposed. Continue reading »

A Meeting of Queer Minds

http://www.atlanticphilanthropies.org/learning/meeting-queer-minds

In March 2010, The Atlantic Philanthropies (AP) hosted an exchange between leadership and activists from Irish and South African organisations representing lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersex people (LGBTIs) at Hout Bay near CapeTown in South Africa.

It can be read for free here: http://www.atlanticphilanthropies.org/sites/default/files/uploads/Meeting_of_queerminds.pdf

A Meeting of Queer Minds, Karen Martin
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Very good review of the situation in Ireland, and South Africa, of the LGBT (and related) rights.
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Mentioned as part of family rights.
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Gay Dads: a celebration of fatherhood

Gay Dads, David Strah with Susanna Margolis,
Penguin Group (USA) inc, 2004
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Another book from and about the USA, but because it is testimonial based, it has some universal relevance. But a lot is so dated that it does not take into account that people are more accepting of gay couples in Ireland, but that legally we are still backward, and that it is very unlikely that the adoptees profile will be anyting liek what these stories depict. Also the legal differences make the choices more restricted.
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You'd think that it could not be more relevant! (For men), but an Irish gay man can feel miles away from this America, or they can feel very close!
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Easy reading, quick and diverse. The persistent racist terminology is unavoidable in such books, but still annoying.
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Not sure if it is really supported by a view on pink adoptions, or just a set of testimonials rearranged a bit artificially. Such books always have a theory behind them, and it is not clear which theory it is. Some of the motivations presented by some of the stories are borderline disturbing. (E.g., choosing the gender of the child)
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A good read to feel better about the prospect of being a pink household.

What is family? Online TV AnLár.ie asked us

Online TV AnLár asked us to answer 5 questions, to illustrate the theme of this year’s Pride: “We are family too.”
So we had a go at it.
[spoilergroup][spoiler intro="What does it take to be 'family'?"]

White knot! Why not?

Friends are people you would risk your life for.
Lovers are people you would give your life for.
Family are people who give you life.

But life is not limited to a biological function.

For instance adopted children give their parents a life as parents, and the adoptive parents give them real parents.

Another instance is that step-parents are not perceived as real parents unless they give the children and the parent of the child, “life”; until they make them who they are rather than just “contribute”.

Family is what turns a child into our child into an individual.

Even without a biological link, we are family too…
… unless you consider inter-breeding the norm![/spoiler]
[spoiler intro="Is the gay community serious about family rights, is there a real grass root interest, or is it just a political game?"]
Who can ask this question with a straight face?

Family rights are all about the children.

The Civil Partnership bill would work for any couple (same-gender, or mix-gender) if they do not have kids, and do not plan on having any.

We are serious about ensuring that our children, the children raised by gay couples, the children that we love and who love us, the children who rely on us and trust us, that our children avail of the constitutional protection for marital families.

They are not second class citizens.
People who are against same-gender marriage are against children.[/spoiler]
[spoiler intro="If the government wanted to allow gay couples to marry, is there a risk it could be challenged? On what grounds?"]
None. No serious threat.

Actually, it would be challenged… but it would not stand.

If the government was not so dependent on a certain section of the religious class, a section which has proven unable and unwilling to uphold children’s best interest, they would not pretend that an expensive and divisive Referendum is “needed”. They need people to believe it is needed. But it is not.

Not until an hypothetical challenge is lost. And even then, the challenge would be the platform fora referendum to be winnable as the opinion will have heard the arguments before having to argue about it themselves. And people are more intelligent than the government give them credit for.

As for the grounds, none of them is serious:

  • Is marriage by same-gender couples a threat to the institution of civil marriage?
    Of course not. We are talking about the constitutional marriage, the one which is the foundation of the family, the one that supports the education of children, the where “family” is defined as a household (Teaghlach) and not as a blood relation.
  • Is anyone’s constitutional right breached by same-gender marriage?
    No ones. You cannot breach someone’s rights by giving someone else’s a right that does not impact the former. It is not like we force them to get married with someone outside of their own gender…
  • Is a gay couple a threat to the children? Think about the children!
    We are thinking about the children; about the ones we raise; about the ones the Irish Adoption Agency is willing to allow us to adopt, because they trust we can be just as good parents as any.
    The only people who will make their life harder are the people, the bullies, who make this silly argument (and threat) in the first place.
    We will not deny our children a family on the ground that bullies tell us our kids will be bullied.

[/spoiler]
[spoiler intro="Is the institution of civil marriage threatened by gay parents and their children and their lifestyle?"]
I think we just answered that :-D

At present, the only thing threatened is our children’s welfare: the government actively stops our children from receiving the constitutional protection they deserve: a marital family.[/spoiler]
[spoiler intro="What is the connection between sexuality and the spiritual value of marriage?"]
People are free to practice their own religion, or whatever spiritual values they want to practice.

But religion is a personal relationship one has with their spirituality, or their God, or their gods, or whatever Supreme Being they turn to.

Religion cannot be allowed to make the Law, and to bully children.

Religious people do not mind gay couples adopting children, or raising their own, in a marital household, in a marital family. The people who mind are not religious people, they are religious extremists, integrists, who want to force their convictions on others.[/spoiler]
[/spoilergroup]
We promote the right to choose our own lives.
They want to bully us in living their own choice.

OpenFM 89.9 – Open Mouth – 23/06 – 8pm to 10pm – LGBT Adoption theme


Daily show: http://www.openfm.ie/openmouth
Tonight the discussion should be around LGBT adoption.

Listen live: http://www.openfm.ie/listen_live

We have been invited on the panel, and I, Noël, will represent the group as our usual spokesperson, Andrew, is not available.

We are family too: why not make a film of it?

Dublin pride 2010

Dublin pride 2010

Dublin Pride Film Shorts Competition.

The competition, now in its second year, is back with a bang with the winners being announced at a glitzy awards ceremony held in Dublin City Centre. The winning short will also be screened at the Meeting House Square on Monday 21st June as a mini featurette before the premiere screening of the Alternative Miss Ireland contest 2010.

Your film will also be featured in this summer’s GAZE – Dublin’s 18th Annual International Gay and Lesbian Film Festival. There will also be prizes from Movies.ie and films courses from Filmbase.

Your film should be original, should reflect the theme of this years pride “We are Family Too” and should be between 2 and 5 minutes in length.

So dust off that director’s chair and pull out your clapper. Closing date for entries is Tuesday 8th June at 5.00pm.

Click here for application form.

The Theme

This year’s theme “We Are Family Too” hopes to highlight the fact that LGBT families inhabit a legal limbo without recognition or protection from the State and with no legal rights or constitutional recognition. While we welcome the fact that the Government is recognizing the lack of protection for LGBTQ people in Ireland, there remain many important areas, particularly regarding LGBTQ families, where the legitimacy of our lives as LGBTQ people is not respected nor given equal status.

Source

This post is taken from: http://queerid.com/topic.aspx?topicid=25867

See also: http://www.dublinpride.ie/shorts/

Same-sex marriage or partnership and adoption: debate for Ireland

It can be read for free here: http://ns3.ucc.ie/en/appsoc/resconf/cstj/gender/DocumentFile,76670,en.pdf

Same-sex marriage or partnership and adoption: debate for Ireland, Eimear Kavanagh, B.Soc.Sc., Critical Social Thinking: Policy and Practice, Vol. 1, UCC, 2009
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An Irish study, looking at the modern Irish situation.
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If same-gender families can marry, then they can adopt domestically, and they can more easily adopt internationally (in some cases).
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Very clear.
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Very detailed. Maybe too much focus on GLEN's point of view. A more diverse point of view could have allowed an interesting exploration of disagreements within th gay community, but it may have risked to dissolve the point made by the study: parents can be good parents regardless of their sexuality, and children deserve to have their parent's relationship recognized as valid.
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A very good argumentation in support of same-gender parenting.

Family tree cool tool: GenoPro Beta

I was looking for a tool to create a family tree.

And most of them were either scams, freeware for 7 days before you need to register, or malware of sort.

And because most of them are coming from America, and are often inspired by religious groups, some of which are specialized in collecting genealogical data to save their world, they are not really “pink” friendly: you can hardly ever have two parents (adoptive of the same gender0, often adoption is ignored or recomposed families are not possible.

I was delighted when I found GenoPro Beta, which met more than my needs. No need to worry about buying the full version, unless you are a genealogy fan. The free version is more than enough to work on the family tree as part of the education/preparation work prior to the home study.

It also has some features that may make it suitable to create ecomaps, but I am still looking at a proper ecomap freeware.

This is now documented here, including a link to download the tool: http://irishpinkadoptions.com/adoption-process/the-tools-you-will-need/family-tree/

Disclaimer: I have no personal, financial or any other sort of interest in this business.